I’m not sure why this bugs me so much, but when a friend calls me momma, it irks me. I have this one friend, named Jamie surprisingly, that has called me momma since I have had kids. I had to tell her to call me Jamie.
Yes I am a mother, yes I have children, yes I am a momma or a mommy (I am NOT a mom…my kids aren’t allowed to call me that) or even a mom-mo as Ally calls me. But my name is Jamie to everyone else.
I’m sure some mothers will scoff at what I am about to say but I don’t define myself as a mother. I am one, but if someone said- tell me about yourself, the first words out of my mouth wouldn’t be “I’m a mother”. I think I would talk more about myself before I start talking about family.
When I think of myself, what comes to mind (other than hot as shit ) is my sense of humor. If someone asked me to describe myself, I would say that I have a good sense of humor, try to look on the bright side of things, considerate and a hard worker. If someone asked me about my family, yes- I would mention them, but they aren’t the first things that come to mind.
I love being a parent, but I actually can imagine my life without kids. I wouldn’t want that life, but I can imagine what life is like without children or before children (it involves sleep, shitting alone, and less stretch marks).
There are some women who immediately define themselves as a mom and that just isn’t me. I blog about my kids, I Facebook about them, I talk about them, but I am able to have a conversation where I don’t mention them.
Does that make me weird? (does it even make sense) And you had all better not start calling me mommy or momma (or even worse- Mom)